qtgirl

Well, some of you may have noticed I’ve been AWOL for a little bit.  Sorry.   After the house incident I just crawled into a cave and licked my wounds for a bit.  First we got screwed by the real estate agent and then by the lawyer.  Sigh.  Not fun.

The whole fiasco brought my husband and I down quite a bit.  We thought we were ‘ready’ to buy a house, commit to a place, ’settle down’ and then panic hit when we realized that we were not ready.

We hate our jobs, and were about to buy a house that would leave us ’stuck’ working at them to keep going.  And, still, moving to England is always there.  It’s like a silent ghost that haunts and taunts us (come, it’s better here)!

I’m proud to say that I did not ‘go off the deep end’ and binge my life away or eat like a nutter because of what happened.  But, I was not up for “dieting” or traning.  My husband and I did process by taking lots of LONG walks (one of them about 5 hours).

Before I had this emotional hiccup, I had ordered TONS of books from the library on changing habits.  What I realized, is that it was my ‘head’ that needed the work.

So, I’ve been reading lots of very interesting books.  Books that talk about not dieting and losing weight (just by focusing on eating good food).  And, a new book that is about going slower.  About changing 1 THING at a time.  

 In my past weight loss journey over the last few months I would do really good and then have a few bad days and get frustrated.  Or, I would do really good, and then not lose, and get ….frustrated.

I think my focus was wrong.  I think I need to shift gears and focus on making LONG term, permanent, lifestyel changes.  AND, I need to get away from the silly notion that I can ‘poof’ wake up tomorrow and morph into the person that I wish I was (exercise bunny, perfect eater, etc).  It’s just not realistic.

So, although this journey will be slow, I’m making one change a week!

This week.  MORE FRUIT!  Try to have some with every meal.  A small change, but a good change, and then I will ‘build’ on this next week.

If anyone out there has done something like this, or done a more healthy (not ‘perfection focus’ or extreme diet focused way to lose weight), I’d love to hear from you and hear some of your tips. 

Glad to be back.

Hey Buddies, yesterday was another good day. I ate well, did 40 minutes of weight training (with a few extra super sets) and also had a nice day.

My hubby and I went house hunting for the first time with an agent. Wow! It’s scary but exciting. I might buy a house….eek!!!

And Yeah, I’m down a pound!!! I hope today is good too, I’m going to a party tonight and have such a hard time not over-indulging!!!

But..I WILL DO IT!! I can do it!! I hope there are veggie sticks.

Hey buddies, just a quick note. I’m feeling pretty good. Recording my food for the Nutritionist that I’m going to get counselling from and doing good with my workouts!

I KNOW what to do, but sometimes I think it’s about the ‘psychology’ of it, like overcoming that part of you that WANTS the cake when you see it. So, I scanned my library and I’m getting out lots of books on HABITS and how to change them. I know my omega 3’s and 6’s and HDL and LDL etc. I know my antioxidant food and blah, blah, blah. But what I still don’t know is HOW to walk past that plate of fresh cupcakes at the office when they look so yummy, even though I have a lovely bowl of veggie sticks on my desk. I like veggie sticks, I do, but I like cake more!!! Sometimes I walk past, but all too often….I don’t.

So, that is my next challenge with this journey, to change my relationship with food and not want the stupid cakes and crap anymore. I’ll let you know how it goes!

I’m proud of my work this week.  I’m back on track. I worked out (hard) almost every day and I’ve been really good with my eating.  I’m down 3 lbs and feeling good.

So, for those of you struggling, just keep trying.  It took me about 3 weeks to really get back on track but now that I’m here I’m feeling good again!

What matters most, is that we just keep trying!!! 

WE ARE ALL GOING TO SUCCEED!!!

Have a great weekend buddies!

We got the buddies we needed, thanks everyone. 

Best of luck to you all.

Hey Fellow Buddies,

Well, I’ve been on Buddy slim since December and things have been going pretty good. I’m learning what is working and what is not working for me!! (I believe it is different for each of us)!

I was recently part of a group for a number of weeks that worked really well. We checked in everyday, were focused on exercise and eating and did a great job. Unfortunately, that group seems to have ended (or at least slowed down so much it’s barely there).

So, I’ve decided to create a new group to meet those weight loss needs and keep me on track!

Here is what I would like from this group, so if it sounds like you and what you want from a group, please let me know. Either respond here or send me an e-mail.

First come, first served!

Here is what I am looking for!

1) I want to keep the group small. 4-5 members maximum (including me). I just found this to be the most manageable number to work with and keep tabs on each other. In my short experience on buddy slim, a small group like this seems to work best for me. I hate to exclude others, but I just feel a group with more people gets to be a bit much. If this does not sound right for you, I know there are tons of other great groups out there

2) I want people who are committed and really want to do this. Check in every day! Post accountability, support and be there for your fellow buddies in the group. Do you have the time to do this? Are you willing or ready? I have found you have to put in to get back!!

3) Although not 100% necessary, I would prefer to have people who are committed to working out. Only because this is a focus of mine and I feel it is an important part of weight loss, so if all of us are working out, we can encourage each other. I try to workout 4-6 days a week and hope for buddies who would like to do the same.

I have to admit, I thought a lot about this and it was a bit scary to post this and ask for what I need and what I am looking for. There are so many wonderful people on here and I don’t want to offend anyone or suggest things that don’t mesh with people. I am an open and accepting person. But, let’s face it. I’m being a bit selfish here too, I’m trying to make Buddyslim help me to reach my goals and with that I am looking for like-minded buddies to share this journey.

So, that said, if anyone out there wants to join me, let me know. Let’s get started and make this happen.

Well, I’ve not been doing great with my diet/exercise for a while now. Last week I tried to get back on track, and did do many things right, but I had a lot of slip-ups!

I just don’t seem to be as motivated, as down to it as I was. Any thoughts!

Have any of you had a pit fall like this, and just had a tough time getting back on track. How did it happen, what did you do. Any advice, butt kicks, thoughts or motivational pep talks would be great.

Thanks,
Samantha

So, today I went shopping (again)! Summer clothes are truly my forte.

Anyways, I got the most adorable little black and pink dress in a size 12! I got the size 14 at lunch and then went back after work and tried on the 12. It fit perfectly (and the top bit is a little lose….bye bye boobies!!!)

But I was thrilled! And I tired a lot of other 12s on and they fit too!!

I’m on the way!!!! Yeah for me!!!

I’m in such a great mood. I went SHOPPING today, and man, I did not mess around. I was in the mall for 6 hours (I only sat down for about 20 mins of that, peeing a few times and having a quick snack!!!)

I LOVE shopping. I love new clothes. I got a BEAUTIFUL and very flattering dress for summer (Sears, $39.99…woo hoo). My hubby said it looks so good he asked if they had it in other colours so I could buy more! YES!

Then I got a white T-shirt at Jacob to wear with summer stuff. And then I bought 2 necklaces. One with Swarvoski crystals that I just LOVE. And, I also got some scrapbooking stuff. Of course, having been their 5 hours or so, I totally cased the joint so I have lots of other WANTS on the list. But I came home and got out my summer clothes to have a look through (you forget sometimes what you have).

AND, all kinds of stuff fits really good, way better than last year. ALSO, last year I bought this dress in a size 11 because I LOVED IT (still has the tag on) and it finally fits. It’s still a bit tight, but I can do it up!!! YES.

I just know that in a few weeks that dress will be fitting amazing!!!

Yeah for me. Doing a little happy dance.

AND, doing this has really helped me feel more inspired, so I’m going to do an extra long, tough workout tonight!!! So who knows, maybe a bit of spring/summer shopping might inspire some of you too!

Hum. As a teacher sometimes kids make excuses. I couldn’t do my paper because…

But once in a while, you want to believe them. Stuff happens, do they deserve a break?

The same is true for me right now and my weight loss journey.

The last few weeks have been insanely busy. Could I change that….no? Could I have really pushed myself and worked out still??? Maybe, probably, if I’d been willing to get even less sleep. Should I have? I don’t know.

So I guess what I’m wondering is when is it an EXCUSE? and when is it a true LIMIT? When do you kick yourself up the butt and when do you stop and give yourself a break (self-care). I have a tough time caring for myself, putting others first a lot and pushing myself like a workaholic. So, this is why this question comes.

I’m glad I have not given up. I’m disappointed that the last few weeks are time lost working toward my goal and were not perfect, but I’m not giving up. I guess in future when the s**t hits the fan again, I’ll need to reassess this.

Any thoughts or feedback would be great! I’m open to all comments (negative or positive)!